Closeness and intimacy

Sometimes people with cancer feel it's unfair that they seem to be the ones who are expected to be strong. It may fall to you to help friends and family members cope with your illness, even though it is you who is ill. If you are able to talk openly, they will probably be relieved and able to respond. However, when you are unwell or feeling low, it is very difficult to take on that burden. In spite of how hard it feels, you will feel a sense of some control if you can manage to begin these conversations.

Often lifelong friends and close family can become strangers just at the time you most need them. It may help to remember that everyone is shocked by bad news. Your family and friends are also wrestling with strong emotions and their initial reactions do not necessarily reflect their true feelings.